Thank you so much to all of you who have been going with me trought that testing of your nervs, integrity and courage.
For the sake of the board and all the good people who have find, is finding and will find help and comfort on it I will keep sharing, inspite of being a bit frightened. Being on the web we are exposed to anyone reading it and giving us abuse. I am oversensitive to criticism, but it's probably a good exercise for me to be able to ignore it and keep going. This is a place where bullies may get an easy way in, we are eager for aproval and often scared or not used to confrontation.

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the outsider (30 Jan, 2007 12:31 p.m.):
Being on the web we are exposed to anyone reading it and giving us abuse. I am oversensitive to criticism, but it's probably a good exercise for me to be able to ignore it and keep going. This is a place where bullies may get an easy way in, we are eager for aproval and often scared or not used to confrontation.

I've noticed that recently I had been getting a bit anxious about my english (because I am not a native speaker) I almost asked a friend to correct my posts before sending them. Now, I know why. By the way Madorsad, your spelling is great and so are your posts!

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Look at it another way. Being on the web we are exposed to anyone reading our posts and giving us abuse BUT, being on the web we are also anonymous. I have no idea who you are, what you look like, where you are, whether you are male or female. Anyone who abuses this site (and we cannot stop that, any more than we can stop abuse from drunks in the street) does not know you. They have no power over you. They may say insulting and hurtful things in response to your posts, but YOU have the advantage. You can read them, decide whether you agree or not, decide whether you accept any comment or not, decide whether to ignore them or not, even decide if the writer is nice or a complete devil - all at your own leisure.

In other words, you have complete control over how, when, and even whether, you respond.

In this and other forums I have seen people fall out, argue and leave groups, but each and every time I have seen someone unjustly attacked, others members of the group have come to their defence. Try to learn to trust others in this group.

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the outsider (30 Jan, 2007 12:31 p.m.):

I've noticed that recently I had been getting a bit anxious about my english (because I am not a native speaker) I almost asked a friend to correct my posts before sending them. Now, I know why. By the way Madorsad, your spelling is great and so are your posts!

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How would you know Mad's spelling is so great if you have trouble spelling?

And what about HTB and White? They spell pretty hot too! J

Anyway, here's a thought for ya....if your friend isn't in the mood to check your spelling....write it up on Word first. pffft! So sad, you with your nonEnglish "mother tongue" that makes you feel so shy...on a lighter note..who the heck says "mother tongue" anyway? Man, some of you peeps can sure put on airs!

I have to say you guys are so transparent....I mean, the whole thing about spelling began with someone correcting my username spelling just to be an ass...then when you all want to say how awful it is to pick on spelling you don't mention 'like was done to Vil'....no, you can only talk about Vil in the context of Vil being so mean (and always in third person too, LOL) like you need to believe that so much you can't include me in some wrong done to me no matter what. It's a deliberate exclusion and it speaks volumes for your need to hate someone in order to feel better.