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Dee Ann
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| Below are some of the titles in the essay called, "A life in Grace". The content is even more meaningful that sayings below. Wow!
1- "It's difficult to make a man miserable while he feels worthy of himself and aims kindred to the great God who
made him." Abraham Lincoln
2- Alas, he cried at the mishap which had befalled him, if I had only done something agreeably wicked, I would know why I am suffering now. Lichtenberg 3- Forgiveness is an inner correction that lightens the heart. It is for our peace of mind first. Being at peace, we will now have peace to give to others, and this is the most permanent and valuable gift we can possibly give. Gerald Jampolsky 4- It is not those innocent of evil who are fullest on the life of God, but those who in their own case have experienced the triumph over evil. Josiah Royce |
| Date: 31 Jan, 2007 on 01:15 a.m. |
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whitesheep
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| I love this stuff D. I've just gotten to the section in "The Road Less Travelled" about Grace. What essay do you refer to? Who wrote it? Where can I find it? |
| Date: 31 Jan, 2007 on 05:06 a.m. |
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Dee Ann
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Whitesheep --The essay is called:
"A life in Grace" - Transcending Scapegoating.
I don't know who wrote it. There are other essays too but I do like this one the best. Maybe you can get to the other essays as you go to the bottom of this essay!
BELOW IS THE WEB PAGE:
"http://koti.mbnet.fi/neptunia/essays/sgtransc1.htm"I read "The Road Less Traveled" many years ago but I remember it being good. I'm going to go look it up in my book shelf because I remember reading about grace. I so love the song Amazing Grace. My brother died young and we went out on a boat for his memorial service and they played "Amazing Grace" on bag pipes as his children threw his ashes into the ocean. Man was that ever emotional. I didn't know Scott Peck died. How old was he?  |
| Date: 31 Jan, 2007 on 07:04 a.m. |
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villianized
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Dee Ann (31 Jan, 2007 01:15 a.m.):
1- "It's difficult to make a man miserable while he feels worthy of himself and aims kindred to the great God who
made him." Abraham Lincoln
Ole Abe spoke correctly, as well I agree...however, him being one of the greatest scapegoaters of all time, he conveniently used words such as the above to feigh saint-like caring to keep from looking like the narcissistic scapegoater he was. |
| Date: 31 Jan, 2007 on 11:15 a.m. |
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whitesheep
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| Thanks for the link.... Scott Peck was 69 when he passed away due to a couple different kinds of cancer. Actually, if you read "The Road..." you'll know that he actually died of unknown causes. Regardless, I thank God for this man and his message of love and hope. In my darkest hour he was there for me and helped me find the courage to face the difficulties of life. Interestingly, in re-reading that book I can see that my last therapist was both unprofessional and unethical. I wish I could find someone like Peck but until I still have his books. |
| Date: 31 Jan, 2007 on 03:38 p.m. |
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Dee Ann
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| Whitesheep: Your welcome! I love the way Dr. M. Scott Peck expresses himself also. I read his book several years ago, but he really does still live through his writings. Did you ever read his book titled, "Gifts for the Journey: Treasures of the Christian Life"? I didn't but just wondered if I should order it. I did read the book about evil though. Wow! Sorry to hear about your therapist. One time I had a bad therapist for me & I told her I didn't learn anything from the sessions(I had three). She then gave me my money back which was a lot of money. Then I did have a wonderful counselor recently and she helped me see through many blind spots. Few therpists have the ability, security of self to dismantle barriers. This one did and I still communicate with her to let her know how well things are going with me and my husband. |
| Date: 31 Jan, 2007 on 05:48 p.m. |
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the outsider
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| Talking about books... Whitesheep, I'm reading the book someone recommended to you but you haven't read (if I remember well) 'Scapegoating in families' by Vimala Pillari. It's a good book, free of jargon and with many examples. It's helping me to understand my situation and also to feel more compassion towards my family (parents), because they are also carrying their 'baggage' and it can all work quite unconsciously in a way that for them, the 'pain' of having a 'blacksheep' in the family is real. Of course I can only speak for myself. Reading this book and the stories of people on this board it makes me think that I've been lucky (as painful as it may feel). Maybe I'm in compassion mood. At the moment I'm working through quite a difficult situation with my family and I feel that so far I've been able to do it without much anger. I remind myself of how their suffering is real for them. But I keep focus on my goal, my path... |
| Date: 31 Jan, 2007 on 06:56 p.m. |
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HardToBelieve
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Dee Ann (31 Jan, 2007 07:04 a.m.):
Whitesheep --The essay is called:
"A life in Grace" - Transcending Scapegoating.
I don't know who wrote it. There are other essays too but I do like this one the best. Maybe you can get to the other essays as you go to the bottom of this essay!
BELOW IS THE WEB PAGE:
"http://koti.mbnet.fi/neptunia/essays/sgtransc1.htm".........
A lot of very good stuff there Dee Ann. But I don't care for any of the 'Neptunia' aspect. |
| Date: 31 Jan, 2007 on 07:38 p.m. |
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HardToBelieve
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the outsider (31 Jan, 2007 06:56 p.m.):
Talking about books... Whitesheep, I'm reading the book someone recommended to you but you haven't read (if I remember well) 'Scapegoating in families' by Vimala Pillari. It's a good book, free of jargon and with many examples. It's helping me to understand my situation and also to feel more compassion towards my family (parents), because they are also carrying their 'baggage' and it can all work quite unconsciously in a way that for them, the 'pain' of having a 'blacksheep' in the family is real. Of course I can only speak for myself. Reading this book and the stories of people on this board it makes me think that I've been lucky (as painful as it may feel). Maybe I'm in compassion mood. At the moment I'm working through quite a difficult situation with my family and I feel that so far I've been able to do it without much anger. I remind myself of how their suffering is real for them. But I keep focus on my goal, my path...
I'm pleased for you Outsider. You sound as though you're on the right path there, but try not to expect that your family will suddenly be transformed. Rather aim to increase your own strength and understanding. This will, in itself, protect you from further harm. |
| Date: 31 Jan, 2007 on 07:42 p.m. |
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Dee Ann
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The Outsider:
The book "Scapegoating in families" sounds interesting. What does the book explain to you that makes you feel more compassion for your family?
I guess I could find some compassion for them knowing they have to live with the guilt of their horrible behavior of pushing one person into the corner so they have to
"act like a brat to" get some power back. This is what a child has to do-----------> but when WE LEAVE HOME, we are free - Hallelujah!!! Now comes the smile cause I'm smiling. |
| Date: 31 Jan, 2007 on 09:18 p.m. |
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