There is a lot of emotional 'attachments' and conditions attached to this house. That's why I lived abroad renting a tinny flat, whilst I kept this empty house here. Now my sister wants to buy it, to build the houses back into a big house for her family (after all wars are about expansion. Isn't it?). So, now my parents are happy for me to go (well, more than happy, I feel they are pushing me out, giving me leafets of 'attractive' nice houses nearby,etc.)

About a year ago before deciding to come back, my parents knew I was unhappy about keeping this empty house when I was living somewhere else. So they 'communicate me' that my sister may be interested in buying it from me and make it look as if she was going to do me a favor. I did a survey on the house, because I thought that it would be the most accurate and fair way to stablish a price for us both. This price was questioned and my brother-in-law (with my sister and parents approval and support) let me know that house prices were gonna go down by 20% next year, so that the house was not worth the money. The house was finally not sold because I moved back in.

A year later.- This time I'm determined to go and I do want to sell the house. So, I did a new survey to see how the price had changed. Guess what? it didn't go down by 20% but it went up by 17%. My sister, brother-in-law and parents are very unhappy with the price. She says she may not buy it. I think she talks a lot to the parents about it, trying to get their support to 'push me out' for pennies or maybe to get financial help from them (because I'm so greedy. LOL) Also, my parents want this house to remain property of the family.

It seems that there is a conclusion to the house business. My dad 'call me' to let me know that because sis and I were unable to agree on a price, he was going to give sis some money (sis had run and cried with real tears to him). He let me know that the price I was asking for (Market value. Survey done by pofesionals) was very high and not fair on sis. I won't go into detail of everything else that took place there and then, but luckily I manage to be angry (not usual on me, but tears will have fall on unfertile ground and probably just took me to a weeker possision were they could both had 'walked over me').

-A bit of background:-
We came to live here, because my husband doesn't have any family and we thought it would be nice and good for the children to grow up near my big family. It didn't work. I have made my decision to go back to live in the UK where my husband is from, but to do so it feels as if I have to break up forever with my family of origin and it's very painful. It's one of the hardest things that I have ever done.

Scott Peck taught me I can't love everyone but to love well those I can - starting with myself. Alice Miller taught me that my parents don't deserve my love and I'll drive myself mad with guilt and remorse by trying to love them. The best I can do is pity them for the unfortunate upbringing that made them the terrible parents that they are. These sentiments have been echoed by the good people in here whose words and support have been my blanket and pillow on very cold nights.

I'm not judging you or your parents although you alone have my unqualified support. Near or far: via con dios.

You are absolutely right to insist on the market price. There is nothing unfair about that at all. It is unfair to expect you to accept below market price when you will need the money to buy another home.

Once again, sorry for the short post as I'm tired following my working day.

I do like the Nickname Insider, it's funny and it's a nice one.

It's been a very hard day (emotionally). I've been feeling a bit impatient and angry with my children (poor innocent angels!). I couldn't stop thinking about all the lies, their complicity and the simbolism of selling the house to sis (finally I'm leaving the family and she's taking my space. As when we were children she was there first, so for my busy young mum there was no 'room left' to give me). And you are right Htb, I do need the money to buy a new home and thanks also for your advise about the party.

We are all been/are scapegoated, but we are all diferent people and our families are different too. I've realised that you WS never talk in present about your family. Does that mean that you've completly stopped the contact? Was that easy?. I don't know where life will take me and how will I feel about it in some years, but I know that now, that's the way it feels, I have to go but... I do love my parents.