This question is inspired by Whitesheep/Zane's shrink who told him his family didn't love him which led to his coming to terms with that in his efforts to understand the way his family treated him and subsequently move on.

So, let's say for sake of conversation that our families do not love us. What's the next logical step?

1.To not love them either?

Or 2. do we keep holding on like some jilted lover and pine for what could have been, if only they loved us while we still love them?