My initial thoughts are these....no one ever won a war by running away and pretending it was not happening.
However, the question arises...can a war really be won? I don't think so myself...I rather think the 'loser' is only temporarily a 'loser' and will go back and regroup only to start the war over again later.
If a person/group/country were to war though, it is essential to run the conflict into the ground until one side can't take it anymore and...runs away or gives in. But now we are back to the paragraph above this one....lingering angers and stuff like that to where unresolved issues rear their ugly heads again and again. And in order for the 'winner' to stay in control, they must continuously pay attention to squashing the 'loser' lest the 'loser' re-emerge stronger and make a coup.
Sometimes in war, the weaker side will use lies and twists and other such nonsense to win through confusion what they could not win by any rules of war.
The only effective war is one in which the enemy is completely annihalated and no longer exists to be able to come back and fight again another day. This the mindset of murderous people who take their adversary out of life.
Hence, war is dumb!
I used the word 'resolved' up there somewhere....and I think that is the only key to getting along. We are all different and can expect at best, in life, to be able to 'walk in another's shoes' and resolve differences. But before that can happen both sides need to be able to talk with one another openly and respect each other's viewpoint...and KEY is they must WANT to.
With my scapegoaters, they are not the least bit interested in my viewpoint. They just want to be right and of course, they NEED me to be wrong so they can be right; so my viewpoint-even unsaid- threatens theirs, hence they don't want to hear my viewpoint at all. And since my being around where they are might 'let me let my views out of the bag', I am not welcome around them. This is not grounds for war though because their behavior is indicative of a mental problem....and we all know that getting into a battle of wits with nitwits is a lost cause venture, not to mention frustrating. So the unanswered, and maybe unanswerable, question of what to do with these sorts remains forever and a day. And I guess that's why we're all here...however many of us there really is. 
